Most of Tony Robbin’s ideas are based in behavioral psychology and the peak performance techniques that sports psychologists have used on elite athletes for decades.
But the quoted example flies in the face of established psychological theory, doesn’t it? Domestic violence is almost always caused by people who were abused as children. The vast majority of these sick people don’t hurt themselves or their loved ones out of a conscious need to be significant, any more than drug addicts stay high because it makes them feel powerful and in control. Jung’s research focused on how avoiding the pain of the original wound creates far more suffering:
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
― C.G. Jung