…’ve re-read some comments I’ve made thus far, from as objective a perspective as I could attain and I was flabbergasted ( old, but great word) to see one, two or even three ways something I’ve said could be interpreted. I can count on you to pick one but I’m not so sure you’ll grab the one I intended. Perhaps I’m over…
Regardless of whether it is the written word or the spoken word, it is one of the banes of human communication that our intention, the exact form of the message, and the way it is interpreted by other people are guaranteed to be wildly different in many cases.
If you go walking down the street, smile, and say hello to a hundred strangers, you’re going to get a wide range of responses to a seemingly harmless gesture. The vast majority will say hello back to you. A sizeable portion will ignore you or cross the street to get away from you, depending on your gender, skin color and attire. And a couple of people will say “what’s so good about it?” or “you got a problem with me, man?” or “f*ck off, you (fill in the insult).”
Sometimes, it’s an unconscious word or gesture on our part that gives off a completely different message.
Sometimes, it’s about what they think they observe in us.
And sometimes, it’s what’s going on inside of them that comes out and gets dumped on us.
How do we figure out all these nuances if we don’t try to communicate clearly, even if at the risk of seeming like a master of the obvious?