That was the sign I was waiting for that you finally got it.
It takes two to tango, and once you stop dancing, you are able to see the lunacy of it all and the foolish person who should be pitied instead of hated.
It doesn’t mean you let down your boundaries or allow someone to hurt you again. It just means you can let go of enough of the pain he caused you to move on with your life and possibly wish him happiness, even though you know he will probably never figure it out.
I find far too many people who come out of relationships with self-righteous anger, and never face the very psychological issues that they brought with them, long before they ever met that bad man or woman.
Without recognizing our own shit, we are condemned to repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship.
Congratulations on your new life.